Most of you know that I grew up on a farm. Some of you may know that I also have five brothers, and four sisters. However, the reason that I point this is out is because I’ve grown up in a very male-dominated world. The nature of farming is very masculine, and so that spilled over into our home life as well.
Here is the point: I’ve been around men a lot. Brothers, uncles, whatever. No matter how many sisters I have, we were always outnumbered.
And here is another point: Men are always wondering what it is that women want.
So today, I’m going to share some very valuable information to the men out there wondering this very thing. So take out a pen and paper, gentlemen, this is going to be very valuable in your life.
The sad news is that there isn’t one single secret you can learn that will help you understand women. I’m sorry about that. But today I am going to give you one of the many that will definitely help should you be smart enough to take my advice.
Women are creatures of communication.
We call our friends to talk for hours. We tell stories at least one hundred times. It really shouldn’t come as a surprise that communication is really, really important to women. The connection that comes from communication is crucial for females.
Have you ever had a woman in your life just want to talk? She just wants to sit and talk? Or maybe a woman in your life just suddenly stops talking to you and you have no idea what’s going on?
Because communication is so important to women, we will either really need it from men, or if we’re angry at them we will completely cut off communicating with them and expect it to mean as much to them as it does to us.
That is why, my dear fellows, one of THE MOST IMPORTANT things you can say to the women in your life (be it a wife, mother, girlfriend, sister, etc.) is this sentence:
“Can we talk?”
It shows your willingness to communicate, whether you feel as though you just talked or if you’re confused about why you haven’t talked. You probably won’t ever understand women, I’m sorry about that, but at least you can understand that the act of communicating: of speaking and being listened to and of listening in return, is really, really important to women.
If you’re smart enough to take my advice, you just might realize that the woman you ask has a lot she needs to say, a lot she’s worried about, and perhaps you can help calm her fears just by listening. You’ll be on the same page, and at least half of the 1 million tabs open in her mind will be able to close.
So do it. Take my advice.